Everybody needs to blow off steam occasionally. Tough situations occur when buddies go beyond their limit. Knowing when a buddy has gone past their limit is easy; the tough part is figuring out what to do about it. The best option is to try to help prevent problems before they occur. When that is not possible, jump in before a difficult situation gets worse.
Situation: Your buddy tells you “I’m going to get turnt tonight.”
Check out the reason your buddy wants to get wasted. Is it just to blow off steam, or is your buddy struggling with something more significant, such as the loss of a relationship, or just feeling alone and misunderstood. If they are struggling with a deeper issue, maybe getting wasted isn't the best thing to do. If it is something significant, tell your buddy they don't have to struggle alone. Offer to spend time with them over a meal or some other activity. Solutions and suggestions are not required. Listening is often the most helpful thing to do.
If the goal is simply to party, then do it in a safe place with people you trust. Make use of the Jayhawk Buddy System Protective Behaviors to safely have a good time.
Situation: You are at a house party...
The party is in full swing. You can't control the whole party, but you can recognize the signals that indicate the party is starting to get out of hand. Signals to watch: people peeing outside, music so loud you have to yell to be heard, people vomiting/falling over/passing out. When you see these signals, it's time to go. You don't have to go home, but don't stay there.
Tell your buddies, "It's time to go. Things are getting out of hand here; let's leave before the police show up." Then, make your way to the nearest SafeBus stop.
If a buddy resists, try one time to get them to come with you. If that fails, do what you need to do to protect yourself from injury or arrest.
Situation: Your buddy is clearly very drunk.
In this situation, your buddy is pretty wasted, but able to function. They are aware of their surroundings and can tell you what day it is. The best thing you can do is help them avoid going further over their limit. This can be done by encouraging your buddy take a break, drink some water, and get some food.