Have the Right Tools for the Job
Knowing your limit increases the chances of having a good time. With the right tools, Jayhawks can help buddies avoid difficult situations. Use the 4 D’s to act when you notice a buddy needing assistance.
DIVERT your buddy’s attention away from continuing consumption of alcohol.
- Change location: “Let’s go someplace else for awhile.”
- Change activity: “Let’s play darts for a while.”
- Change beverage: ”Let’s pace ourselves with a glass of water or Coke.”
- Use a compliment: “Those are cute shoes! Where did you get them?”
DEFLECT your buddy’s aggressive behavior with humor.
- “How ‘bout those [insert Buddy’s favorite sports team here]?”
- “Did you see [insert popular TV show] this week?”
- “Did you hear what [insert name of buddy or acquaintance] did in class?”
DIFFUSE an explosive situation by distancing your buddy from that location.
- “Let’s go outside to get some air.”
- “Let’s go to (insert name of buddy)’s apartment.”
- “Let’s go over there (across the room) and see who we can find.”
DEESCALATE strong emotions by introducing other buddies into the situation.
- Get help: “Austin, Joe, Kelsey…I need your help over here.”
- Make eye contact with your buddy and speak in calm manner.
- Ask your buddy to sit down and take a breath.