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Have the Right Tools for the Job

Knowing your limit increases the chances of having a good time.  With the right tools, Jayhawks can help buddies avoid difficult situations. Use the 4 D’s to act when you notice a buddy needing assistance.

DIVERT your buddy’s attention away from continuing consumption of alcohol.

  • Change location:  “Let’s go someplace else for awhile.”
  • Change activity:  “Let’s play darts for a while.”
  • Change beverage:  ”Let’s pace ourselves with a glass of water or Coke.”
  • Use a compliment:  “Those are cute shoes! Where did you get them?”

DEFLECT your buddy’s aggressive behavior with humor.

  • “How ‘bout those [insert Buddy’s favorite sports team here]?”
  • “Did you see [insert popular TV show] this week?”
  • “Did you hear what [insert name of buddy or acquaintance] did in class?”

DIFFUSE an explosive situation by distancing your buddy from that location.

  • “Let’s go outside to get some air.”
  • “Let’s go to (insert name of buddy)’s apartment.”
  • “Let’s go over there (across the room) and see who we can find.”

DEESCALATE strong emotions by introducing other buddies into the situation.

  • Get help:  “Austin, Joe, Kelsey…I need your help over here.”
  • Make eye contact with your buddy and speak in calm manner.
  • Ask your buddy to sit down and take a breath.

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